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02-29-2016, 06:00 PM
Bow down.
I am the most unappetizing woman that a lot of these colonized men have ever met. I think I am becoming more aware that the less I laugh at their jokes and coddle their mediocre attempts at an intelligent conversation, the more unattractive I become to them. I hurt their ego. I hurt their sense of self. But I am done playing games.
Bow down.
I am brilliant, beautiful and unstoppable, and I owe nothing to men - to any man. Scratch that, men inspired it. All they ever taught me was that I was brilliant when I was affirmed by them, beautiful when I was catcalled and thus approved by the male gaze, and unstoppable if they did not stand in my way, when they allowed me to be. (https://www.instagram.com/p/_LPYDLRFfQ/)
I read almost exclusively female authored material, listen to female musicians and songwriters, intentionally seek out the art of female muralists. I love female poets, and my knees buckle when I meet any female in any space because I know I am safer with them around. My smile is wider, and I greet them like we are kin. I have fallen in love with us -- and with myself -- by mere admiration for whom we are and what we have done to get here: trans-women, bi-women, queer women, differently abled women, stay-at-home moms, female sex workers, strong women, submissive in-bed women, loud women, introverted women, and women who do not give a fuck.
I think the more in love I have fallen with myself, the less out of love I have fallen with the idea of male approval. Funny how that works. That the minute I feel the most whole and satisfied with who I am and where I have been, and the decisions I have made about MY life, the less I care for a third party male voice in my head telling me, discouraging me, or even affirming me.
I have become your worst nightmare, because it hurts you all so much to feel unwanted or even not needed. Sexism has made you want that, require that of a female partner; it balances out the hierarchy of genders that places men above us.
I am a hurricane, a fuckin' tsunami, and a tornado, all in one. I am intense and passionate, and I will demand intensity. And when I do not get what I want from my male partner, I leave them on the side of the road, without any regard for them. I can forget you. Believe me when I say that I will never look back -- because when I want you out of my system, you will be out.
I think that as a society, we have a huge disdain for women who unapologetically perform masculinity. Meaning my self-affirmations and haughtiness are to be rejected simply because I am female. We like words like compromise and reconciliation and unity, but what about anger and stubborn and hate? I need to sit in full admiration of my prowess without having to apologize to any man for my words, for they might hurt his ego. I need to hold my power and my voice and gawk at it, love it, because it has been long overdue.
Funny how that much power in this brown female body is threatening to some. And may the cackle in my laugh of liberation spark the way toward your own queendom, and may you reign eternally.
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I am the most unappetizing woman that a lot of these colonized men have ever met. I think I am becoming more aware that the less I laugh at their jokes and coddle their mediocre attempts at an intelligent conversation, the more unattractive I become to them. I hurt their ego. I hurt their sense of self. But I am done playing games.
Bow down.
I am brilliant, beautiful and unstoppable, and I owe nothing to men - to any man. Scratch that, men inspired it. All they ever taught me was that I was brilliant when I was affirmed by them, beautiful when I was catcalled and thus approved by the male gaze, and unstoppable if they did not stand in my way, when they allowed me to be. (https://www.instagram.com/p/_LPYDLRFfQ/)
I read almost exclusively female authored material, listen to female musicians and songwriters, intentionally seek out the art of female muralists. I love female poets, and my knees buckle when I meet any female in any space because I know I am safer with them around. My smile is wider, and I greet them like we are kin. I have fallen in love with us -- and with myself -- by mere admiration for whom we are and what we have done to get here: trans-women, bi-women, queer women, differently abled women, stay-at-home moms, female sex workers, strong women, submissive in-bed women, loud women, introverted women, and women who do not give a fuck.
I think the more in love I have fallen with myself, the less out of love I have fallen with the idea of male approval. Funny how that works. That the minute I feel the most whole and satisfied with who I am and where I have been, and the decisions I have made about MY life, the less I care for a third party male voice in my head telling me, discouraging me, or even affirming me.
I have become your worst nightmare, because it hurts you all so much to feel unwanted or even not needed. Sexism has made you want that, require that of a female partner; it balances out the hierarchy of genders that places men above us.
I am a hurricane, a fuckin' tsunami, and a tornado, all in one. I am intense and passionate, and I will demand intensity. And when I do not get what I want from my male partner, I leave them on the side of the road, without any regard for them. I can forget you. Believe me when I say that I will never look back -- because when I want you out of my system, you will be out.
I think that as a society, we have a huge disdain for women who unapologetically perform masculinity. Meaning my self-affirmations and haughtiness are to be rejected simply because I am female. We like words like compromise and reconciliation and unity, but what about anger and stubborn and hate? I need to sit in full admiration of my prowess without having to apologize to any man for my words, for they might hurt his ego. I need to hold my power and my voice and gawk at it, love it, because it has been long overdue.
Funny how that much power in this brown female body is threatening to some. And may the cackle in my laugh of liberation spark the way toward your own queendom, and may you reign eternally.
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